Where they do that at?

At first I was going to put this post in Politics. When I thought about it this post isn’t political. The problem with a lot us today  we try to make EVERYTHING politically correct.  This topic is serious and I want you to understand where I’m coming from.  I am not here to bash anyone. I am a fan of Beyoncé .  People need to realize that this Mass was not good. I understand that there are people in the world who have been hurt by the church. They have been around people who hurt them inside the church.  There are people in the world that look at “Christians” and automatically think they are bad because of what they see going around in the world.

I feel like if you want to bring someone closer to God or to Christ doing a mass dedicated to a celebrity is the wrong way to go. I know sometimes we make references to songs.  We may use the beat. There’s so many things that we do to try to help people.  I suggest we don’t do it at all. Rather speak from the heart, back it up with scripture and tell them your story.  Tell them your testimonies.

You CAN NOT find God through worshiping man. You can’t find Jesus through Tupac or any other celebrity. You find God for yourself.  You speak to him you and surround yourself around true believers whose actions reflect what they say.

I just want to warn you to not be deceived by these things.  We may look at this video and say “Well they are trying to help non believers”.  Watch it closely are they really trying to help them?  Or are they feeding their own flesh by using people to worship their idol ?

I’ll leave you with these scriptures.

Colossians 2:8 Be careful that no one takes you captive through philosophy and empty deceit based on human tradition, based on the elemental forces of the world, and not based on Christ.

1 John  4:1 Beloved, do not believe every spirit, but test the spirits to see whether they are from God, because many false prophets have gone out into the world.

2 Corinthians 11:13-15  For such men are false apostles, deceitful workers, disguising themselves as apostles of Christ. No wonder, for even Satan disguises himself as an angel of light. Therefore it is not surprising if his servants also disguise themselves as servants of righteousness, whose end will be according to their deeds.



Delicious and Nutritious

It’s messy but it sure was good

I was not going to post this but a friend of mines at work saw this and was like “Post this it looks good”!  I made this cake for Easter Sunday. It was a homemade Strawberry Cake and homemade strawberry icing. It took me twice to get the icing right.  I got the recipe from this website here.


Then I sort of put my own twist on it. I added more strawberries to the cake and to the frosting because I really love strawberries! So enjoy!

Church folk be doing the most!

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Your face every time a elder at church ask “When are you going to get married”?



Here-ye ! Here-ye!

It’s your girl Charmaine and I have to make an announcement to all the church folk out there.  Please stop doing the most! Just stop it. When you do too much people feel as if they don’t want to be around you. Your opinions need to be kept to yourself.   If you feel like that person is not where they need to be in life then that’s you.

 I’ve been at my church since the age of three if some don’t know that already.  At thirty-one I don’t have a husband; yet alone a boyfriend and I do not have children.  It’s not that I don’t want to be married or have children but right now is not the time. Timing is everything and God has a plan for all of us. I can admit there are times that I wish I had someone. When I do see a cute baby or toddler I’m like “Oh how cute one day”! Then I go about my business.

For some time the elders at the church been having a habit of asking me if I’m married.  When am I going to get married?  One went as far as looking at my left finger. He saw it was bare he said. “We gonna pray that he finds you”. I laugh it off as usual.  And my mom looked at me and said “I hope you received that”!  I try not to roll my eyes but instead I keep my comments to myself.

One Sunday,  I’m leaving service and I see one of my grade school friends mother. She’s super nice .  We say hello and we hug and she goes.

“Do you have a baby yet”?  I look at her and I smile and say.

“No”.  Then she says.

“You let my daughter beat you having a baby”!

“I sure did and the baby is adorable”!   I smile again.

She and my mom say a few words.  We’re walking back to the car and I look over to my mom and say.

“They are doing too much today”!

My last example I feel I need to talk about because it’s a hot mess!

There’s a lady I will call Ms. Johnson. She’s a sweet lady and since I graduated college she has been trying to hook me up with her son. Here’s the thing, I am in no way shape or form attracted to her son.  He doesn’t know how to carry a conversation. He doesn’t stimulate me intellectually. It’s a no for me dog!

 One day we were at church (this around 2011-2012 right after I graduated college) and she asked if I had a dude and my mother answered for her and proudly said.

“No she doesn’t have a boyfriend”!

I’m standing there listening to them talk and Ms. Johnson says.

“Well my son is single too and he needs to talk to you Charmaine”. I fixed my mouth to say no thank you. My mom interrupted me and said.

“That would be great “! She rambled off about my accomplishments during undergrad then she adds.  “SHE’S A VIRGIN TOO!

My mouth drops because I felt that comment echoed throughout the church.  I dare not to look around because I was too embarrassed.  So she proceeds to get my number. A month goes by and no phone call. I don’t care but his mom does. Finally, he calls me and the conversation is dull and boring. We don’t talk too long because I was ready to get off the phone.  So some years pass and I refused to go out with him.

Last year on Mother’s Day I see her again and she tells me.

“Go get your husband”!

 I grew excited and look around and my eyes land on a tall handsome  chocolate man with dreadlocks. I smile to myself. Is she telling me that my prayers have been answered? She goes

“Go get your husband”! I turn to my right and I’m looking at the guy who I’ve been having a crush on for a while the third time she goes.

“Go get your husband, my son”!  I come back to reality and I said.


“My son, look go get him”! I look around and I don’t see him at all.

“He’s over there in the purple shirt”!

I still don’t see him and then she points him out to me.  I almost said “GIRL BYE”! Loudly. Why was her son sitting with another woman holding a baby? That’s a mess! So I turned around and gave her a look.  My mom interrupts me once again for saying something foolish in the sanctuary.

“Oh I see him I’m going to go say hi, nice talking to you”! She rushed half way towards him and calls his name. He’s just sitting there looking lazy as hell. I trail behind her and I don’t speak. Then we leave. You know I was livid right? I couldn’t believe that woman.


 After that day. It’s been like a domino effect.

“Is ya married”?

“When ya gonna get marriage”?

“Do you have any chilren”?

“When you gonna-“?

NO, NO and NO! Don’t ask me anymore questions about my life or when I’m going to do something. Mind ya business. Dang, I swear church folk be doing too much!


Ain’t no Funeral Bih! Obama is still my President

Comedy in the White House!

I really try to avoid politics because there are too many opinions out there. I feel like if I state how I feel then people will get upset. At this point now I feel like opinions are like a-holes everybody has one.  This is a disclaimer : I am not anti-Trump. I am anti- Tom foolery, coonery, Klanism (yeah I made that word up) racist, sexism,ageism ETC. You get the picture.  So, without further ado I give to you Comedy in the white house from a comedic perspective by yours truly!

Goodness Gracious Lord have mercy! Donald Trump aka 45 aka Celebrity Apprentice aka Twitter fingers aka Cheeto man aka POTUS but not really a POTUS aka Mr. Grab em by the Kitty Kat aka Blame it on Obama aka RHOWH (Real House wives of White house) aka Fake News ( even though I do agree with that to a certain extent)has been doing the most!

We’ve seen most of his staff  quit or get terminated (via Twitter). We’ve seen scandal after scandal. There’s been so much scandal that I think Shonda Rhimes need go on and follow 45 around with cameras for the next three years! Who needs Kerry Washington when the whole cast is literally on the news every day?   From James Comey to Stormy Daniels, 45 has a lot of work cut out for himself!  In thirty-one years of my life I’ve never seen a president like this!

Last week former FLOUTS Barbara Bush was laid to rest. D.T. Jr. took it to twitter and wrote his condolences. Whoever is in charge of putting out the letters for 45 obviously got the dates wrong and had the years mixed up.  Talk about bad timing!

Then the day of the home going service we see Melania Trump aka The first Kim K. before there was a Kim K aka FLOUTS but not really FLOUTS aka the- side –chick- turned- into -wife -who -got cheated -on -with –another- side-chick- was solo dolo! 45 was nowhere to be found. He is so disrespectful!

Trump probably woke up that morning and was like “Aint no funeral bih! I gotta go to Japan, Egypt, or somewhere”! He probably went back to bed and slept until noon!  How you not going to show up and pay your respects? That’s just tacky!

My two favorite people up; President Barak Obama and FLOTUS Michelle Obama! Honey when I tell you Michelle came there to slay! Her hair was on point and her dress was cute! They walked in side by side holding hands. They have so much class! I don’t’ care what you say Barak is still President in my eyes.

On the cool I sort of felt bad for Melania because she was by herself. I felt more embarrassed for her.  Then, when I saw the picture they took  at the repast she didn’t seem upset at all!

She looked more relaxed than anything!  I laughed so hard. I can only imagine what she goes through or what every woman has went through with Twitter fingers.  It’s such a shame when you think about it. I mean can you imagine waking up to 45 every morning with out his wig on? Oh goodness I think I just threw up in my mouth! You know what I’m going to end it on that note.

So, that’s it for now folks! Until next time!



Quote of the week

My bestie sent this to me last night before I went to bed and this was right on time. The whole quote is great but it’s the first half of the quote that really stood out to me. Not to settle, keep learning about yourself. Keep trying, fighting, growing, nourishing your wants and discover your needs.  I actually stopped there.

Though this quote is about learning how to appreciate single hood until God blesses you with the “one” he has for you; I felt like the quote is about life in general. Sometimes, we tend to settle. We settle for that job because it pays the bills. We settle because we’re complacent when in reality we’re not.  Have you ever had that nagging feeling that you’re supposed to be doing more?  You know there’s more to life than the desk job you’re at. The cubicle that you’re sitting in is beginning to close on you.

My friend, I’m going through the same thing! Mediocrity is not the way! I’ve always believed that we were meant to do something spectacular with our lives.  We’re supposed to be great and do great things. I encourage you do take that big step and live your life to the fullest!

So if you’re reading this and you are single and you don’t have children I say go for it! Do what you were called to do!  Don’t wait until you’re 50 to do what you want because with a blink of an eye you will be 50 and you don’t want to look back and say “What the hell happened”?  I know I don’t want to be in the same spot and look up and regret the things that I didn’t do.   So remember the first half of the quote!

You got this!



Know God for yourself

In this day in age there’s has been a huge backlash when it comes to the church specifically black churches. Just last week I was minding my own business getting my pedicure when my BFF texted me and said

“Have you heard about your Pastor”?

I’m like

“Naw what happened”?

He proceeds to send me the link to the article and my jaw drops to the ground. I’m reading this information and the first thing I think is “NO, not my Pastor”!  I quickly denied the allegations that was against him. Then, my phone rings and I’m talking  with my close friends and family about this situation.   I’m thinking in my head “Is this news true? Would my Pastor really do this?

I know some of y’all been in my shoes before. For centuries the church has had impact on people and their lives. We look up to our pastors and anyone in a high position at church to help us with our walk with God. We lean on them to help us understand the word.   To us they are our leaders and they are wise. They know God on a different level and to us it’s their jobs to elevate us and encourage us to be the same way.

When they have a word they indeed give a word! We cry and shout. We lift our hands and receive the things that they speak over our lives.  You thank God for this man/woman because they have blessed your life tremendously.

But, what happens when they make a mistake?  You find out that your pastor has infidelity issues?  Domestic violence dispute? He’s been using the tithes and offering for his own good use? He’s been using that money to pay off debt?  Been living a double life of sleeping with men and women?  Or worse got caught up in pedophilia case?  I ask this because I want to know what would you do? How would you feel?

I can tell you how I felt when I saw that poorly written article.   I was shocked and appalled. I was confused. I was like now I’ve been going to this church since I was a toddler and all of the sudden this happens?  I was raised in this church so it was affecting me. I spoke to a few friends and they told me that if our Pastor was guilty they would leave the church.   I said  “I’m not leaving because that’s my home and I know that he’s not guilty and I know God for myself”.

Read what I said when I was ending the conversation because I know that you stopped at I know he’s not guilty and he probably want to click off. I said that I know God for myself.  That’s what I have a issue when it comes to some people. You left the church because of that but do you know God?  Do you really try to establish a relationship with him?  When the service is over and the doors close for that week, what are you doing outside of the building? Are trying to pick up your bible and read? Are you trying to live your life in the most positive way?

Perfect scripture Psalm 118:8 It is better to take refuge in the LORD than to trust in humans.  This means that we can not put all our trust into men. That includes our pastors, bishops, deacons or priest. We can’t do it because they are only human, and as humans we make mistakes.   When you are called by God and you’re in a leadership position we know that they have to set an example for the people that they are leading.

Every now and then there comes a time when they fall short.  Just like us they make mistakes small ones and big ones.I hate to say this but at the end of the day we can not judge these people. Yes we can get upset. We can share our feelings about it. What we really need to do is talk to God about it.  First pray for your pastor and the family that affected by the situation. We want our pastors to pray for us all of the time but are you doing the same?  Then say “Hey God you know what this situation sucks, it really does. You know everything. It’s just not the same anymore remove me when it’s my time to do it”.

It’s a hard to think that any person that you look up too would disappoint you so much. I encourage you to don’t let people especially in church take away your love for God because he’s done so much for you! Don’t give up! if you need a while to take a break from church then do it. But don’t let that be a set back for you! Find a church that’s good to feed you spiritually. Last but not least, always remember to know him for yourself!


God’s Timing

I needed this!


And some of them said, “Could not this Man, who opened the eyes of the blind, also have kept this man [Lazarus] from dying?” John 11:37

A young man visited the father of his girlfriend to ask the father’s permission to marry his daughter. To his surprise, the father said “No.” The young man thought it was a formality; the father took it much more seriously. The father explained to the young man that there were character and behavioral issues in the young man’s life that concerned him. If he would agree to work on those issues, they could talk again about marriage.

Timing in life is often a puzzle to us. We ask God for something and we wonder why He doesn’t immediately say “Yes.” Even more puzzling, God is aware of our needs even before we ask (Matthew 6:8), so why doesn’t He just provide what we need…

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