In this day in age there’s has been a huge backlash when it comes to the church specifically black churches. Just last week I was minding my own business getting my pedicure when my BFF texted me and said
“Have you heard about your Pastor”?
“Naw what happened”?
He proceeds to send me the link to the article and my jaw drops to the ground. I’m reading this information and the first thing I think is “NO, not my Pastor”! I quickly denied the allegations that was against him. Then, my phone rings and I’m talking with my close friends and family about this situation. I’m thinking in my head “Is this news true? Would my Pastor really do this?
I know some of y’all been in my shoes before. For centuries the church has had impact on people and their lives. We look up to our pastors and anyone in a high position at church to help us with our walk with God. We lean on them to help us understand the word. To us they are our leaders and they are wise. They know God on a different level and to us it’s their jobs to elevate us and encourage us to be the same way.
When they have a word they indeed give a word! We cry and shout. We lift our hands and receive the things that they speak over our lives. You thank God for this man/woman because they have blessed your life tremendously.
But, what happens when they make a mistake? You find out that your pastor has infidelity issues? Domestic violence dispute? He’s been using the tithes and offering for his own good use? He’s been using that money to pay off debt? Been living a double life of sleeping with men and women? Or worse got caught up in pedophilia case? I ask this because I want to know what would you do? How would you feel?
I can tell you how I felt when I saw that poorly written article. I was shocked and appalled. I was confused. I was like now I’ve been going to this church since I was a toddler and all of the sudden this happens? I was raised in this church so it was affecting me. I spoke to a few friends and they told me that if our Pastor was guilty they would leave the church. I said “I’m not leaving because that’s my home and I know that he’s not guilty and I know God for myself”.
Read what I said when I was ending the conversation because I know that you stopped at I know he’s not guilty and he probably want to click off. I said that I know God for myself. That’s what I have a issue when it comes to some people. You left the church because of that but do you know God? Do you really try to establish a relationship with him? When the service is over and the doors close for that week, what are you doing outside of the building? Are trying to pick up your bible and read? Are you trying to live your life in the most positive way?
Perfect scripture Psalm 118:8 It is better to take refuge in the LORD than to trust in humans. This means that we can not put all our trust into men. That includes our pastors, bishops, deacons or priest. We can’t do it because they are only human, and as humans we make mistakes. When you are called by God and you’re in a leadership position we know that they have to set an example for the people that they are leading.
Every now and then there comes a time when they fall short. Just like us they make mistakes small ones and big ones.I hate to say this but at the end of the day we can not judge these people. Yes we can get upset. We can share our feelings about it. What we really need to do is talk to God about it. First pray for your pastor and the family that affected by the situation. We want our pastors to pray for us all of the time but are you doing the same? Then say “Hey God you know what this situation sucks, it really does. You know everything. It’s just not the same anymore remove me when it’s my time to do it”.
It’s a hard to think that any person that you look up too would disappoint you so much. I encourage you to don’t let people especially in church take away your love for God because he’s done so much for you! Don’t give up! if you need a while to take a break from church then do it. But don’t let that be a set back for you! Find a church that’s good to feed you spiritually. Last but not least, always remember to know him for yourself!